Be A Hero Not A Zero

Now Parents,

Either you are going to be a jester and bumbling idiot or a person who is wise and makes sound decisions.  If you are the first, do not expect your children to take you seriously or come to you for wisdom (they’ll love you though).  You wouldn’t go to someone embarrassing for wisdom would you?  So don’t get mad at them if they don’t want to hear you if you’re a bumbling idiot.  What response is better for your children long term?   I’ve only ever wanted to be Claire Huxtable.  So emulate intelligence, wisdom, humorous, balance, and maturity.  Take these attributes and weekends the mentor you need!  I want all of us to be role models for those who belong to us.  Be a hero not a zero!!!  You rock!!!

Now Parents,

Either you are going to be a jester and bumbling idiot or a person who is wise and makes sound decisions.  If you are the first, do not expect your children to take you seriously or come to you for wisdom (they’ll love you though).  You wouldn’t go to someone embarrassing for wisdom would you?  So don’t get mad at them if they don’t want to hear you if you’re a bumbling idiot.  What response is better for your children long term.  I’ve only ever wanted to be Claire Huxtable.  So emulate intelligence, wisdom, humorous, balance, but maturity.  I want all of us to be role models for those who belong to us.  Be a hero not a zero!!!  You rock!!!

Now Parents,

Either you are going to be a jester and bumbling idiot or a person who is wise and makes sound decisions.  If you are the first, do not expect your children to take you seriously or come to you for wisdom (they’ll love you though).  You wouldn’t go to someone embarrassing for wisdom would you?  So don’t get mad at them if they don’t want to hear you if you’re a bumbling idiot.  What response is better for your children long term.  You want to be the help they look to in the future.  I’ve only ever wanted to be Claire Huxtable.  So emulate intelligence, wisdom, humorous, balance, but maturity.  I want all of us to be role models for those who belong to us.  Be a hero not a zero!!!  You rock!!!

 

Too Old For Parent Blaming

​How old is too old to blame parents?

When you stop blaming your parents, you allow yourself to grow up.  Otherwise you become stuck in a childlike state of mind.  Their recollection is only to let you know what you need to fix within yourself!  It’s only in your mind!!!  Stop playing a mind game with yourself so you can properly navigate your reality.  Fix it!  Not Jesus … YOU!!!

If It Don’t Fit

If it don’t fit, don’t force it.  

​As I grow older, I feel that people in relationships are either a good fit or not a good fit.  It becomes personal when you are trying to fit what doesn’t belong or beyond what someone really wants.  See, you cannot WANT your relationship and want a relationship with something else too.  At this first action, destruction begins and you move the whole relationship out of alignment.   I have met many amazing people.  Their worth will never be defined by me because I am not with them.  BUT their worth is defined TO me by their actions. So if it didn’t work chalk up the good times and continue to evolve into your higher self.   You want the best fit for the road you’re traveling and the future you want.  

And when you get as close as possible rejoice because many have not found!  

Love y’all!  #koiisms #KoiNikole 

Thanks Guys!

​Always amazing the things I’ve been through to get right here!  Selah 💜 … As I listen to Luther Vandross, I think of the cheaters & liars that cheated & lied themselves out of the best they’ve ever had.  See, otherwise, there was no reason to leave.  So you freed me!  The beauty is that I seem to always get stronger, a better picker, and better outcome.  So THANK YOU so much for pushing me to the next level!!!  And thank you Koi Nikole for being love and strength of heart for progress!!!  
“The Phoenix Awakens”, p. 36 Oh What A Price by Koi Nikole   Www.ThePhoenixAwakens.com 

Teach How To Treat You

It had to cut myself off for years just to build myself.   After many times of trying to squeeze in, I allowed it on my terms, kept my boundaries and rules of engagement.   Best 4 years I’ve ever invested in me.  And even though others have their opinions it was the best 4 years I invested in her.  I taught both of us how to treat me! 💜  And many others since then!  

You got this!!!  Teach someone today!!!

Love Of The In-Laws

​I’m pretty reflective today, a bit in my head and my emotions.  Many times the love of the family has the power to keep things together when there is very little to salvage.  The love of a mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, nieces, nephews, and, even stronger, children.  I have been here … and their love anchored my heart.  I’ve also been on the other side LOL  What I’m saying is family surround your couples and encourage those who can be encouraged or be strength for that unit until they gain strength.  Sometimes it doesn’t rebound but at least they knew they were loved at least by you!  Family is for building and keeping structure intact for intended purposes.
To my Friend Rest In Power, 

Thank you 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

Marry Your Best Friend

Couples should be happy, into one another, riding a similar road, enjoying the same interest, protected by each other, be the ONE person that you can talk to & draw from, making things happen in all areas for one another … loving to make the other smile.  Many people think that what I’m saying is strange … and so you are detached moving increasingly separate.  I have only announced the attributes of your best friend.  Why not want the highest kind of relationship in a marriage?  It is the Virtue Exchange  …

Be amazing!!!  Love y’all!

Men Love My Book

​Went to a birthday party after my Book Reading/Signing and a guy there bought my book.  With no hesitation, handed me cash.  Then I went to support DIRTY MUGGS, and a guy there immediately bought my book.  The guy called me and said he was on page 60 and he was amazed at how much I have poured out of myself.  I told him, “When the Phoenix Awakens It Rises!”   He said he needed 2 more!  
See, he don’t know that I KNOW that he is going to find that inner child within himself that needs to be reminded and that it will revolutionize his understanding of the WombMan!  The Virtue Exchange IS the Strength Exchange! Be amazing!!!  Love y’all! 😚😚😚😚😚  www.ThePhoenixAwakens.com

My Books Are In!

I am so emotional right now!  I love the finished product!  I already know the essence of my new book and it will transcend this.  Even the colors are symbolic.  I didn’t foresee myself here, I just followed my strength.  Thank you so much for being a part of my journey!!  Order at www.ThePhoenixAwakens.com and see you soon!!!!

Energy You Feed

My Sis just said to pay attention that the things now happening were once a thought. Because you are aligning with that thought and sending energy to it, you keep it alive. Fear. Create another thought and give it energy. Draw the life out of that reality. Create and feed a more overcoming one! Love y’all!

 

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